Swapping the Calendar is NOT Hitting the Reset Button

Warning: there is a little colorful language in here. It is a longer post, too. I don’t do summaries, though. If you make it through, you have my thanks for sticking with me. If not…

Let’s be realistic. At midnight tonight shit ain’t gonna magically transform into a wonderful new time in our lives. Quite honestly, I’ve gotten tired of hearing the bullshit about how getting to 2021 is going to make things better. COVID is still going to be a thing. The horseshit politics that 2020 contained is going to spill into ’21 and stink just as bad. The crap that is mainstream media and social media is still gonna be crap… major fucking crap.

Sounds harsh, doesn’t it? Well, it is. It’s the truth as I see it. Life has not been grand this year since I have spent a significant amount of time and energy tip-toeing through a minefield of requirements set by a society that is virtually at war with itself.

It’s difficult, at best, to get just facts about anything going on in our world. Every piece of information seems to, at minimum, have some sort of bias attached to it. Then the bias in mainstream media has gone a step further… outright lies. The news media will put “news” out there that is complete bullshit simply because it supports whatever agenda they have. I don’t pay much attention to the news, and yet, I’ve witnessed lies myself. That tells me that there must be a lot of lies out there if even I’m picking up on it. So, how do you get facts from that? How do I get the information I need without the complete bullshit that the media is trying to shove down my throat?

I don’t give a shit what the journalist, news station, or whatever thinks. I just want the factual information so that I can figure out how do deal with it. It’s time for less op-ed. I’ll decide what to think and how to feel about the facts. I don’t need you telling me how I should think and feel.

Then there’s social media and my online “friends”. (Yes, I put “friends” in quotes.) I use Facebook. I started using it to stay in touch with a few family members, some actual friends, and some folks that I got along with back in my school days. I find Facebook to be quite entertaining at times. But more and more, it’s not so entertaining. Why? Well, people that I thought were “friends” are so biased about issues that they openly criticize and say hurtful shit about anybody that might disagree with their “point of view”. Some of these people also try to politicize everything.

Have you ever stopped to consider that I might be one of those people that doesn’t agree with your point of view? Do you even give a shit? I didn’t accept your friend request on FB because I wanted you to hate my guts and consider me unfit to live in this world if I didn’t wholeheartedly agree with your view of something.

I’ve never thought of YOU that way. I might question your judgement or wonder if you have good information/knowledge, but I have not decided to hate you because you see things differently. But you’ve made it pretty obvious that if I do anything but remain silent about an issue where I have a different point of view, I might as well burn in hell. Thanks for that…

So, yeah, there’s been that lovely shit storm to walk through this year… kinda like being an unwilling participant in a monkey shit fight at the zoo.

I just don’t see how changing the calendar on the wall is going to make shit like that suddenly be gone.

With all that said, I can’t say 2020 was a horrible year for me. I have a family that I love. I have a decent job. My house is still standing. I have a few folks I consider friends. My best friend of 30+ years and I are still like brothers even though we don’t always agree on things (See? It’s possible not to hate someone if they don’t have the same point of view on things).

I guess I’m going to continue doing what I do. I think it’s been working. When it doesn’t, I will change as needed.

I am making an upfront change, though, simply because it will be good for me and hopefully those near me. I am no longer going to be concerned with what some think of me if I don’t agree with them. While I might maintain my silence as a means to keep a little dignity and peace, I will just disappear from their lives. I am no longer going to stand by and let them think they can say hurtful and mean shit about folks that don’t agree with them. My silence did not necessarily mean agreement, you know. So, being an asshole and calling people (me included sometimes) some pretty nasty shit because of a different point of view just ain’t gonna work for me anymore.

I am not very politically minded, but I am done with feeling like having a different point of view is a bad thing because I’m concerned about what someone might think of me. And that goes for all sides of the arguments. If you can’t be my friend because I don’t share your point of view on all things, then the loss is yours. I was willing to respect you and your difference of opinion. I even tried… until now.

Yep, this sounds like a rant. I cannot and will not deny it. The end of this year, though, seems to need a bit more than a simple reflection of the goings on. A lot of shit went sideways for us this year. I get that people are scared and angry about some or all of it. I am one of them. But I don’t get how people have simply lost their minds and started acting like rabid assholes over it. It’s one thing to have feelings and points of view. It’s okay to disagree and have debates – even arguments – about issues. It’s something completely different, though, to call for bad things on and say some really mean shit about folks simply because of a difference in opinion.

As with every new year, I will hope for the best for me, my family and friends, and well, you, too. I do not expect great things for the new year. I don’t want to get my hopes up. I intend to remain realistic and practical. My goal is to simply live and love. I want to have some fun and help those around me to do the same.

If it is possible, Happy New Year. At least, have a Better New Year.

As always, if you like what you’ve read here, let me know by clicking that like button. It’s very much appreciated. If you have a thought, comment, or question, by all means drop, me a line. I love getting feedback. A dialogue is always better than a monologue.

Type to you later…

6 thoughts on “Swapping the Calendar is NOT Hitting the Reset Button

  1. Happy New Year! All I expect from 2021 is that it doesn’t try to be worse than 2020. Other than that, I just want to finish one more year alive!

    Nice new look on the blog, by the way!

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    1. Happy New Year to you!
      I think I’m going with “prepare for the worst and hope for the best” for 2021. Preparation does not mean expectation for me, so the “hope” part is where I’ll be leaning.
      Thanks. I got tired of the stars and found a color combo that I thought was both pleasant and easy for reading.
      Have a good one.


  2. Scott, you have voiced much of what has been on my mind also. Here’s hoping 2021 will bring at least some sanity back to the world. Again well said, have a great New Year!

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    1. Glad I could put things into useful words. I’m hoping for some recovery from the extreme bandwagon craze, but I will allow myself to wait and see. For those that want to converse rather than scream, I’ll make myself available (for whatever that’s worth). For the others…
      Thanks for reading, and have a good New Year, too.


  3. Hey Scott. You are right, 2021 will be similar to 2020 at least in the near term. As they say, Same Shit, Different Pile. When the pandemic started, I had great hope for the human race, but not so much any more. Many are simply out for themselves, to Hell with others, the country, the world. Not sure they will ever get it. I understand that 24-28% of people are just wired differently and have a different opinion. That I don’t mind. What I mind is that they can not be receptive to a different point of view, without getting angry and nasty. We lost a cousin to Covid over the Christmas season. My own sister said….”well, that is what they put on the Death Certificate”. No sis, it was Covid. Yes he had other issues, but Covid was the final nail. Like you, I feel there was still a lot to be thankful in 2020. I hope we can make some progress in 2021 and future years, before the next crisis comes along. We need to pull together or we will pull apart. Have a fabulously Happy New Year and stay well Scott. Allan

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    1. Sorry to hear abou your cousin.
      I am hopeful, but it’s going to take some effort on many people’s part to change some things. Being tolerant is a two-way street. I think it would serve many very well to keep that in mind.
      Thanks for the well wishes. It is appreciated. If you and yours can have a great new year, then that is what I wish for you. You stay well, too.


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