So, a couple things are on the brain…
First, I have a family member that has been in a bad way for a bit now. I’ve mentioned this before in another post. Anyway, the family decided that this person needs more help than they can readily give to keep this person safe. My family is getting older… and fewer. This person simply has lost the ability to function safely while alone. I was Home when the family had to perform one of the “rescues”, if you will. It was pretty obvious to me that a bit more vigilance is needed. So, this person is now in assisted living. I know the place since I had a great aunt in there. I personally think this was a good idea. I’m hoping for the best, too. The situation now allows for a bit of… healing for this person, or at the very least, a chance to enjoy the good times without having to suffer when shit just ain’t working.
It’s a different thing for me. This person is one of the aunts/uncles. This is a person that most of my memories involve someone that, while not necessarily perfect, was with it and capable and an active member of the family… a “not as old” member of the family (kid’s perspective, heh). The grandparents and great aunts/uncles are a generation removed, and while I was close to all of them – closer in some cases, I guess there’s an unconscious understanding that those family members are older; thus, their time with the family is more limited, and things like going into homes is… expected? I hope I’m being clear, though I’m not sure. I guess this person having to go into a retirement facility ‘hits a little closer to home’. It has made me stop and think about some things for sure.
On to the other thing… maybe related on some levels?
I’ve been “wandering around” in my spare time. I’ve had evenings after work where I’m just not sure what to do with myself. Y’all know that I do the iRacing thing as a hobby. I love it… but… I have not been involved in racing lately. In fact, I’ve missed some significant races over the past few weeks. It’s like I haven’t had the time I need to be ready and meet the requirements, and/or I just don’t want to spend the time. It’s been truly both scenarios, too. Obviously, real-life obligations have to take precedence over my virtual racing career, and I’ve had a few things to do in the evenings. So, some of the time I spend is simply not there.
The other part, though – not wanting to spend the time, is the part that has me perplexed. I guess I’ve been feeling a bit burnt out on iRacing. I’m not sure why, but I have certainly been easily distracted by other things. Part of the distraction is the feeling of being a little burnt out. The other part, is the fact that I’ve had the opportunity to spend more time online with my best friend playing games and “hanging out”. I’ve been having a lot of fun with that. Since he’s not an iRacer, spending time with him is time NOT spending time on iRacing. That is something I’ve been… okay??? with.
As silly as this may sound, it really is a dilemma for me. I like to race. I like a lot of the guys I race with. I consider most of them friends. I just have felt more compelled to hang out with my buddy of nearly 30 years. Yeah, I’ve been friends with Matt for almost 30 years now… wow. Maybe this thing with my one family member going into assisted living has got me more aware of the limits on time I have with my family and best friend. So, I have definitely been more willing to give up time for iRacing lately, in favor of time hanging with Matt.
I hope the iRacing friends that read this understand. I’m not gone for good, and I’m not mad at you guys. I just have not gotten that wound up about either of the leagues over the past few weeks. I’ve screwed myself out of racing in one league by not meeting minimum practice requirements. And the Texas League on Thursday nights has been neglected because by that time of the week, I’m just not feeling it. I don’t know.
My final distraction is Mind the Shadows. I have been making some effort on the next chapters. That effort, though, is not yielding fruit… yet. I have been feeling compelled to write, but I have deleted and re-written a lot lately. And I’m STILL not sure if I’m happy with it. Anybody that writes will get it. It’s been… frustrating.
Anyway, that’s enough bitching. I promise to try and be more entertaining in future posts. I just felt like I needed to one, make a post, and two, let folks know that follow this where my head has been.
Thanks for listening…